Because we are part of the body of Christ, we have a corporate responsibility to support each other, particularly when things get difficult. This is especially true if we stood up for our friends or answered the following wedding-day question affirmatively: “Will all of you present do everything in your power to support this couple?” However, it’s not always clear what “everything in our power” actually means.
No one wants to be intrusive or meddling. It’s all too easy to wait for someone to ask for help. The problem is, people don’t always know how to ask for help — or even recognize they need it. The following suggestions can help you discern whether or not you should weigh in.
- Don’t disregard red flags.Notice how your friends treat each other. Is there ongoing tension, sarcasm or discord? Is their body language congruent with the promises they made to love, honor and respect each other?
- If what you hear and see is troublesome, spend time praying for them before you speak up.This is not just for their sake. God will soften your heart toward them and simultaneously guide you. (Pray specifically for them to ask for help! It’s always easier to speak into a situation when invited.)
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